01 November 2010

Dad I Love You! -Short Stories


A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom,
and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was allhe wanted.

As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his
father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His fathertold him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how
much he loved him. He handed his son a beautifully wrapped gift box.
Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and
found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name
embossed in gold. Angry, he raised his voice to his father and said

"With all your money, you give me a Bible?" and stormed out of the
house, leaving the Bible.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business.
He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make
arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.

When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret
filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important
papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago.

With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. And as he did, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag
with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired.
On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words PAID
IN FULL.

How many times do we miss Spirit's blessings and answers to our prayers because they do not arrive exactly as we have expected?
Today's affirmation: "Today I look beyond the obvious and allow miracles to be created in my life."

Life is a do-it-yourself project -Short Story

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house-building business to live a more leisurely life with his wife and enjoy his extended family. He would miss the paycheck each week, but he wanted to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go & asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favour. The carpenter said yes, but over time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.

When the carpenter finished his work, his employer came to inspect the house. Then he handed the front-door key to the carpenter and said, "This is your house... my gift to you."

The carpenter was shocked!
What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently.

So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the building. Then, with a shock, we realize we have to live in the house we have built. If we could do it over, we would do it much differently.

But, you cannot go back. You are the carpenter, and every day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Someone once said, "Life is a do-it-yourself project." Your attitude, and the choices you make today, helps build the "house" you will live in tomorrow. Therefore, build wisely!

22 October 2010

7 Important Steps of Hindu Marriage before Fire

Wedding Ceremony

Saptapadi (The Seven Steps)

The Bride and Groom take seven rounds around the sacred fire
representing the seven principles and promises being made to each other.

1) Together, we will acquire energy to share the responsibilities
of our married life.
2) Together, we will fill our hearts with strength and courage
to accomplish all the needs of our life.
3) Together, we will prosper and share our worldly goods and
we will work for the prosperity of our family.
4) Together, we will cherish each other in happiness
and in sorrow.
5) Together, we will raise strong and virtuous children.
6) Together, we will fill our hearts with great joy, peace,
happiness, and spiritual values.
7) Together, we will remain lifelong partners in this matrimony

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Essence of Marriage - Important quotes forever

"Essence of Marriage"
Marriage is the fusion of two hearts,
the harmony of two souls, the union of two families…
it is an eternal commitment
two people make to believe in each other,
understand each other, forgive each other,
and love each other.

Let us live like ideal friends who think and act alike.
Let's think and act together in all seasons & stresses.
Let us have worthy children.
Let us live happily together.
Let us have a majestic life.
Let us live an active and energetic life.
Let us take our first step together.


Two lives, Two hearts
Joined together in friendship
United forever in love.......
We will walk side - by - side
hand - in - hand.... forever........


We have waited for this day so long,
And now that it has come,
We are overwhelmed with joy and our
hearts sing a song,
As we start the new journey of our lives,
Hand in hand, Smiling away,
We seek your blessings and good luck
And request you to grace the occasion on
Our special day.


With new dreams, new hope,
new aspiration and a desire to achieve
new horizon, we are stepping into a new
beginning of wedded life. Because you have
shared in our lives through your friendship & love
We invite you to share with us in our
We have waited for this day so long,
And now that it has come,
We are overwhelmed with joy and our
hearts sing a song,
As we start the new journey of our lives,
Hand in hand, Smiling away,
We seek your blessings and good luck
And request you to grace the occasion on
Our special.

21 October 2010

Rules for Happy Marriage - follow and continue life long

Marriage is a Gift for life.
 For best happy living follow the below rules.

Never be angry at the same time
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire
IF one of you has to win an argument, let it be the other one
If you have to criticise, do it lovingly
Never bring up mistakes of the past
Neglect the whole world rather than each other
At least once everyday, try to say one kind or complimentrary
thing to your husband / wife
When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit and
ask for forgivness.

20 October 2010

Best Skin Glowing Tips - 1

Skin is the most important part of the body which covers our flesh. It displays and indexes all our health by glowing ..
Know the best tips to take care of your skin.
Avoid Food That's Bad for Your Skin
Focus on eating as cleanly as possible today. Avoid fast food, fried food, and anything processed. That includes refined sugar, soda (diet and regular), and processed meats and cheeses. Why? They keep your body and your skin off balance.

Instead, eat foods that are good for your skin. Here's a quick list of foods for healthy skin:

* Oranges
* Cantaloupe
* Tomatoes
* Leafy greens
* Salmon
* Tuna

Find more foods that are good for your skin.



Curb Cravings
To curb cravings and make sure you're eating only the best foods for your skin, drink water or tea throughout the day. Mix it up with sparkling water, a splash of natural (no sugar added) cranberry juice (rich in antioxidants), or a wedge of lemon, lime, cucumber, or melon.

18 September 2010

12 Sharp and Simple Tips to control Blood Pressure

Blood pressure is the key constraint to maintain the pressure of the blood that flows.. There are so many tips to control the BP but these tips are sharp simple and everyone can follow.. I would like to hear more from you in comments.. :-)


* Beat high blood pressure on your own
* 1. Go for power walks
* 2. Breathe deeply
* 3. Pick potassium-rich produce
* 4. Read food labels for sodium
* 5. Indulge in dark chocolate
* 6. Take a supplement
* 7. Drink alcohol—but not too much
* 8. Go decaf
* 9. Take up tea
* 10. Work (a little) less
* 11. Relax with music
* 12. Seek help for snoring

Heart attacks and strokes are just two possible outcomes of damage that started years before, damage that accumulates invisibly when you live with high blood pressure. You may never experience these frightening results but the damage is being done.

Luckily, there's a 100% surefire way to prevent all these problems: lower blood pressure. It's not difficult. Doctors agree that up to 95% of hypertension cases can be treated with lifestyle changes and other natural methods. And there are a number of powerful medications, strictly as a last resort, for those rare cases that refuse to respond to nature.

Get your blood pressure checked and take immediate action if it's too high. Don't be fooled just because you feel well.

04 August 2010

HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY for all of you

A Friend is a Need in a Friend in a Deed

Since we met its been you and I, a tear for a tear baby eye for an eye and u know that my heart gonnna cry if you leave me lonely cuz u not just my friend your my homie
-Jarule...Put it on me

 " HAPPY FRIENDSHIP FOR ALL THE FRIENDS IN THE WORLD"
Put it on me if this was our world,it would be all yours babbyy
Sent by josh

"Friends are the siblings God forgot to give us."
Sent in by Hillary

"You'll always be my best friend, you know too much!"

"When it hurts to look back and your scared to look ahead you can look beside you and your best friend will be there."

The following two quotes were sent in by Maggie Lee

"You mean the world to me and I'll never stop loving you 'Cause what you have given me I can never repay And if we meet again somehow, I will love you then as now 'Cause you mean the world to me~ David Lamotte

30 June 2010

5 Helath Tips for Best Health -Wealth

Merely an absence of disease does not necessarily mean that you are
healthy. It’s true that sometimes diseases strike us when we least expect it
even when we do everything right as far as staying healthy is concerned.
Indeed, a wise man once truly said “Health is Wealth”, for there is nothing
worse than feeling ill at ease. Illness and diseases not only make you
dependent on others, they also rob you of your zest for life. Why not take
measures to ensure a long, happy, self sufficient and healthy life? Here are
a few tips to help you do just that!

Follow the PyramidNot
the pyramids in Egypt, we mean the food pyramid. A food pyramid basically
tells you what to eat most and what to scrimp on. At the base of the pyramid
are things that you should consume the most like cereals and pulses. As the
pyramid tapers off to its peak, it tells you about the things you should eat
sparingly like oils and fats. In the middle of the pyramid are food items to
be consumed moderately like fruits and veggies followed by milk and meat
products. Keep this in mind when you eat or plan your meals.
Regular Checks
Never
underestimate the power of monitoring your health. A major part of staying
well is consistency in health and that can only be figured out if the
indicators of your health are regularly monitored. These indicators are
Sugar Levels, Blood Pressure, Haemoglobin Count, Urine Analysis, Cholesterol
and Lipid Profile, Liver Function Test, ECG, and Chest X-Ray. Many hospitals
such as Apollo Hospitals have comprehensive health check-ups that cover all
these tests and more. These tests become all the more important as you age.


Sweat It
There
is no alternative to exercising and you don’t just need to do it when you
gain a few extra pounds. Exercise keeps you active and energetic and it is
great for the joints. However, be careful of over-straining yourself.
Consult a physician or fitness trainer to figure out a fitness plan that is
best suited for you. And do remember to wear the right outfit and footwear
while exercising, else you may injure yourself. Keep moving and don’t allow
yourself to be glued to a chair all day.
Water Rules!
Keep
your body well-hydrated by drinking a lot of water throughout the day. Water
is actually a miracle drink that aids many of your bodily functions like
getting rid of toxins, eliminating wastes, regulating body temperature,
lubrication of body joints, assisting in digestion processes, and much more.
This is one drink you should indulge in all day and every day!
Relax
Stress
leads to many physical and mental disorders. Keep it at bay with deep
breathing, leisurely strolls, meditation, chanting, and listening to music.
Other ways to relax include socializing, traveling, talking to friends, or
basically doing anything that pleases you and makes you feel good.

07 May 2010

Friendship is everlasting

" If you like people, people will like you". " Friendship is an art; very few
people have a natural gift for it". " The best way to keep your friends is not
to give them away". " A friend is one who knows your faults yet loves you in
spite of your virtues". " Friendship will not stand the strain of too much good
advice for very long". " Good friendships are fragile things. They require much
give and take".

Think positiveway about your future

"Don't waste time worrying about future difficulties- they may never come". "
The only light on the future is faith and experience". " The best way to face up
to the future is to confront the present, courageously and constructively". "
The future will only be as good as we have the courage to make it".

27 April 2010

Think positive about your future







" Don't waste time worrying about future
difficulties- they may never come". " The only light on the future is faith and
experience". " The best way to face up to the future is to confront the present,
courageously and constructively". " The future will only be as good as we have
the courage to make it".

Knowledge is the power of god





" Knowledge is power- if applied". " Education is
not the filling of a bucket but lighting of a fire". " I hear and I forget. I
see and I remember. I do and I understand". " The world is a classroom and life
is a memorable teacher- for those who are prepared to learn". " The difficulty
in education is to get experience out of ideas". " To teach is to learn twice".

22 April 2010

Top 7 things you should talk at interview


Today's job market is as competitive as ever. You need to be able to effectively communicate you skill set so that you will give yourself the best competitive advantage to secure employment. During the interview process, you want to highlight as many of your strengths as possible. An easy way to do this is by slipping a few simple phrases into your next job interview. Here are seven things you should say in an interview.

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1. I am very familiar with what your company does.
Letting a prospective employer know that you are familiar with what a company does shows that you have a legitimate interest in the business and are not just wasting their time. Do your homework before arriving for an interview. Check out the company website for information about products and services. Search for the latest transactions and pertinent business news.

Be sure to let the interviewer know that you are familiar with the newest company acquisition or the latest product that was just developed. Explain how your skills and experience are a perfect fit for the employer.

2. I am flexible.
Work environments are always changing. Prospective employers are looking for candidates that are open to change and can adapt at a moment's notice. In today's fast paced business world, employees must have the ability to multi-task.

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Stating that you are adaptable lets an employer know that you are willing to do whatever is necessary to get the job done. This may mean working additional hours or taking on additional job duties in a crunch. Show your potential employer that you are equipped to deal with any crisis situation that may arise.

3. I am energetic and have a positive attitude.
Employers are looking for candidates with optimism and a "can-do" attitude. Attitudes are contagious and have a direct affect on company morale. Let the optimist in you shine during the interview process.

Be sure to always speak positively about past employers. Negative comments and sarcastic statements about past employers and co-workers will make you look petty. If you bad mouth your past company, employers are liable to believe that you will do the same thing to them.

4. I have a great deal of experience.
This is your chance to shine. Highlight any previous job duties that relate directly to your new job. If it is a management position, state every time that you were responsible for the supervision, training and development of other employees. Discuss your motivational techniques and specific examples of how you increased productivity. Feel free to list any training classes or seminars that you have attended.

5. I am a team player.
Do you remember when you were young and your teacher wanted to know if you could work well with others? Well the job market is no different! Companies are looking for employees that are cooperative and get along well with other employees. Mentioning that you are a team player lets your prospective employer know that you can flourish in group situations. Employers are looking for workers that can be productive with limited supervision and have the ability to work well with others.

6. I am seeking to become an expert in my field.
Employers love applicants that are increasing their knowledge base to make themselves the best employees possible. Stating that you are aiming to become an expert causes employers to view you as an asset and not a liability. You are a resource that other employees can learn from.

This is also a subtle way of illustrating that you have an attitude of excellence. You are aiming to be the best at what you do! This will let employers know that you are not just a fly-by-night employee, but in it for the long run.

7. I am highly motivated.
A motivated employee is a productive employee. Talk about how your high level of motivation has led you to accomplish many things. If you are a meticulous worker, discuss your organizational skills and attention to detail. Companies are always looking for dependable employees that they can count upon.

The Bottom Line
Remember that a job interview is an opportunity to sell yourself to a prospective employer. Be sure to slip in the right phrases to give you the best chance possible of securing that cushy corner office on the ninth floor.

21 April 2010

Top 5 Toughest questions for men

The 5 toughest questions for men are:

1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?

What makes these questions so difficult is that each one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly ( i.e. tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.

Question 1: What are you thinking about?

The proper answer to this, of course, is: “I’m sorry if I’ve been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you.”

This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following:

a. Baseball.
b. Football.
c. How fat you are.
d. How much prettier she is than you.
e. How I would spend the insurance money if you died.

(Perhaps the best response to this question was offered by Al Bundy, who once told Peg, “If I wanted you to know what I was thinking, I would be talking to you!”)

Question 2: Do you love me?

The proper response is: “YES!” or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, “Yes, dear.”

Inappropriate responses include:

a. Oh Yeah,
b. Would it make you feel better if I said yes?
c. That depends on what you mean by love.
d. Does it matter?
e. Who, me?

Question 3: Do I look fat?

The correct answer is an emphatic: “Of course not!”

Among the incorrect answers are:

a. Compared to what?
b. I wouldn’t call you fat, but you’re not exactly thin.
c. A little extra weight looks good on you.
d. I’ve seen fatter.
e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.

Question 4: Do you think she’s prettier than me?

Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: “Of course not!”

Incorrect responses include:

a. Yes, but you have a better personality.
b. Not prettier, but definitely thinner.
c. Not as pretty as you when you were her age.
d. Define pretty..
e. Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.

Question 5: What would you do if I died?

A definite no-win question.

(The real answer, of course, is “Buy a Corvette!”)

Happiness is like honey



        " You don't find happiness- you
create it". "Happiness is like honey- you cannot spread it without getting some
on yourself". " Happiness comes from enjoying the small daily things of life".
Let nothing tempt you to a convenient, but unethical, compromise. For where
there is adherence to truth, there alone, in the end, is victory.
          Cultivate happy
memories- not in yourself only, but in others. When the opportunity comes, ask
people, " what has been the best day of your life?" If their answer seems to you
to fall short of their potential, continue with the question, " Why?" Draw them
out, gradually, to a higher and higher understanding of what their potentials
are. Convert no one, except to his own higher self.

20 April 2010

An good idea will change your life

        A good thing to give a person is a useful idea. New ideas are the enemies of old ideas. Great minds discuss ideas; mediocre minds discuss events small minds discuss people. Nothing is more dangerous than an idea- if it's the only one you have. Good ideas don't keep; you must do something with them- immediately. An idea isn't worth much unless a person has the energy and the ability to make it work.
   

17 April 2010


Life is a mostly froth and bubble. 2 things stand like stone; kindness in
another trouble, courage in your own.

15 April 2010

Money is a good servant to all

Money is a good servant to all

To attract abundance, see money as a flow of energy, not as a static quantity. See life as a flow also, not as a fixed pattern. Think of life as a glass, and of abundance as a flow of water. Water can fill the glass only in liquid form, not as a block of ice.
Money is a good servant but a poor master. People who work solely for money seldom go far. When your outgoings exceed your income, your upkeep is your downfall.
Your banker will lend you money if you can prove you don't need it. Fools and their money are welcome anywhere. Fools and their money are soon parted.
That money talks i will agree- it always says goodbye to me.

Money is a good servant to all

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To attract abundance, see money as a flow of energy, not as a static quantity. See life as a flow also, not as a fixed pattern. Think of life as a glass, and of abundance as a flow of water. Water can fill the glass only in liquid form, not as a block of ice.

Money is a good servant but a poor master. People who work solely for money seldom go far. When your outgoings exceed your income, your upkeep is your downfall.

Your banker will lend you money if you can prove you don't need it. Fools and their money are welcome anywhere. Fools and their money are soon parted.

That money talks i will agree- it always says goodbye to me.

14 April 2010

Time is precious use properly.

Time is precious use properly
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Meet your challenges vigorously. To muse lengthily on past victories is to deprive yourself of the energy you need for winning new ones. Overcome worry by living bravely right now. Leave your future problems to be resolved by future energy. Think of time as a radiation outward from your own center. Past and future are a circle rotating around a never-changing present.

Communicate with others thoughtfully, never absentmindedly. Do things that are uplifting; don't merely pass the time. For time is an inheritance: However little or much has been allotted to you, Spend it wisely, or it will be frittered away.

Be silent at your center. Excessive speech is anesthetizing. Instead of thinking up ideas to communicate to others, think up ideas to communicate to your own higher self.

13 April 2010

Music sense will develop your positive thinking



To express your thoughts more interestingly, infuse melody into your voice. Laugh with others, not at them. Choose your words kindly, and they'll invite understanding.

Concentrate on the taste of food- on its life force, its vitality, its joy. Have you been eating corpses? Eat only foods that are vibrant with life.

Don't merely hear sounds: Listen to them. Observe their effect on your nervous system. Surround yourself with uplifting harmonies, soul-stirring rhythms, inspiring melodies.

Make communication with others an exchange of vibrations, and not only of ideas.

Uplift moods of depression on wings of song- or, if you are not musically gifted, soar upward mentally with the flights of birds. Moods come to us because our energy has descended to the lower part of our bodies. When we raise our level of energy, the moods vanish for lack of native air to breathe.

11 April 2010

Smile with your eyes

Smile with your eyes
When conversing with others face to face, communicate also with the eyes. When you express yourself only in words, you reduce your communication by half.
Have the courage to embrace the unexpected. For life is an unfolding drama. Whatever happens to you, welcome it with a smile and you'll find you can turn it to good advantage.
In any position of leadership, inspire others by you When conversing with others face to face, communicate also with the eyes. When you r example. What you do has more influence than any thing you say. And what you are has a greater influence than either.

09 April 2010

Thousand streams will make a mighty river

Thousand streams will make a mighty riverTreat others as colleagues, not as competitors. Competition can be an incentive to self-improvement, but it takes cooperation to build a civilization. When people work together, they benefit everyone. A thousand streams, meeting, become a mighty river.
Laugh heartily- that is to say, from your heart- at least three times today.
Try to understand points of view that you don’t hold. The mind, like the body, must be stretched to keep it limber. Otherwise, it will ossify.

When dealing with others, seek solutions that will benefit both of you. You’ll find them too, then, inclined to be more generous.

08 April 2010

Thousand streams will make a mighty river



Treat others as colleagues, not as competitors. Competition can be an incentive to self-improvement, but it takes cooperation to build a civilization. When people work together, they benefit everyone. A thousand streams, meeting, become a mighty river.
Laugh heartily- that is to say, from your heart- at least three times today.
Try to understand points of view that you don’t hold. The mind, like the body, must be stretched to keep it limber. Otherwise, it will ossify.
When dealing with others, seek solutions that will benefit both of you. You’ll find them too, then, inclined to be more generous.

07 April 2010

Carrot Juice - Boost your healthy life

Drinking carrot juice is one of the most popular ways that you can provide a boost to your diet. Frequently called the "miracle juice" due to carrot juice's many healthful benefits, many people the world-over have seen greatly improved health from drinking carrot juice on a regular basis. Not only is carrot juice delicious on its own, carrot juice is also ideal to combine with other juices to make a drink the whole family can enjoy. And juicing carrots is easy!

Carrot Juice is the Richest Source for Many Vitamins

Carrot juice is one of the richest sources of vitamin A, as well as an excellent source of other vitamins, such as B complex. Carrot juice is rich in mineral content with high levels of calcium, copper, magnesium, potassium, sodium, phosphorus, chlorine, sulfur, and iron. Vitamin A is needed for the body for many essential functions such as:

* Good vision, especially at night or in darkened conditions
* Good bone and tooth development
* Healthy reproduction, both for the male and the female
* For healthy skin and mucous membranes. Vitamin A deficiency can lead to dry, rough and scaly skin. Increasing Vitamin A is a fast way that restores and heals healthy skin and can prevent future problems
* Protection of the body through its use as an antioxidant, potentially reducing the risk, or even rid the body, of certain cancers and cancer tumors
* Resistance to infectious diseases


Vitamin A is especially necessary in the diet of expecting mothers to build up and maintain the health of both the mother and the developing child. Fresh carrot juice should be included in the diet, not only during pregnancy, but also while nursing the baby.

How to make Carrot Juice

Juicing carrots is fast. Preferably buy organic carrots to gain even more benefit and better nutrition. Clean the carrots using water and a stiff vegetable brush. Do not peel, as valuable vitamins and minerals are contained in the skin and the upper surfaces. Juice using any good juicer machine from one of the major juicer manufacturers (buy online through our recommended suppliers.) Remove the carrot juice from the juicer. It should be drunk immediately it is made. If this is not possible, save the carrott juice in an air-proof container that should then be stored in a refrigerator.

Carrot juice can be blended with most other juices. Carrot juice is a delicious drink that can be enjoyed by all members of the family at any time of the day and drinking it will help cleanse the body and prevent illness.

23 February 2010

10 Tip to keep your HEART healthy

Heart is the vital organ of our body, if we maintain our heart young, it gives energy. You're never too young—or too old—to start lowering your heart disease risk. Of course,exercising, eating healthy and reducingstress are key throughout life, but due to physiological changes that happen as we age, certain risk factors do become more of a threat.

In Your 20s
Stub Out a Social Smoking Habit
Smoking is enemy number one when it comes to heart disease, and even just a few cigarettes can do damage: New research from McGill University in Montreal found that smoking just one cigarette a day stiffens your arteries by a whopping 25 percent. Plus, smoking erases the hormonal advantage you have from estrogen, which can leave you vulnerable to a heart attack before menopause, explains Dr. Bonow.

Don't Ignore the Birth Control Factor

Remember that hormonal contraceptives slightly increase the risk of blood clots, so if you've ever had one, make sure to discuss it with your doctor before going on birth control. And if you're currently a smoker, don't take oral contraceptives, because the combo can be especially dangerous, says Sharonne N. Hayes, MD, director of the Women's Heart Clinic at Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota.

Watch Your Alcohol Intake
Moderate amounts of alcohol can have a beneficial effect on your heart. (By "moderate," we mean one drink a day or about 5 ounces—but many restaurants serve far more than that.) Overdoing it can raise triglycerides, increase blood pressure and lead to weight gain, thanks to all those empty calories.
In Your 30s

Get a Grip on Stress
When you're juggling career and family, it's crucial to find stress management techniques that work. "Untamed stress has a direct negative impact on heart health," says Dr. Stevens. "The constant bombardment of adrenaline raises blood pressure and destabilizes plaque in your arteries, making it likely to cause a clot or heart attack."

Lose the Baby Weight
No, you don't have to fit into your skinny jeans by the time the baby's 6 months old, but do aim to get back to your pre-pregnancy weight within one to two years. "Carrying around extra pounds can lead to high cholesterol, high blood pressure and other heart disease risk factors," Dr. Bonow says. Also remember that it's easier to lose weight in your 30s than in your 40s, when your metabolism slows down.

Stay Social
It's important to stay connected to friends and family for the sake of your mood and heart. Research at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine found that high levels of loneliness increase a woman's risk of heart disease by 76 percent. On the flip side, having strong social support can help lower your blood pressure and improve other cardiovascular functions. Set aside time once or twice a week to call friends, or make a monthly dinner date.

In Your 40s

Make Sleep a Priority
Thanks to peri-menopause, fluctuating hormone levels can interfere with a good night's sleep. But not getting at least seven hours of shut-eye regularly can lead to increased blood pressure, low-grade inflammation and higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol, all of which are harmful for your blood vessels and heart, explains Jennifer H. Mieres, MD, a cardiologist at New York University School of Medicine and coauthor of Heart Smart for Black Women and Latinas. Lack of sleep has also been linked to weight gain. So establish good habits: Turn in (and wake up) at the same time every day—even on weekends—and do your best to relax before going to bed, whether it's watching a favorite funny TV show or reading.

Reassess Your Risk Factors
You may discover that your cholesterol, blood pressure and blood sugar levels have changed in this decade, even if you aren't doing anything differently, says Dr. Hayes. In fact, 22 percent of 40-something women have high blood pressure and 50 percent have high cholesterol (a jump from 38 percent of women in their 30s), according to the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute. Also, be sure to get your thyroid checked around 45; hypothyroidism(an underactive thyroid gland), which becomes more common as women get older, can negatively affect your cholesterol levels as well as your heart.

Step Up Strength Training
You start to lose muscle mass more rapidly in your 40s, which causes your metabolism to slow down since muscle burns more calories than fat. Unfortunately, this makes it harder to stave off those extra pounds. To help maintain muscle and keep your metabolism going, aim for two 15-minute sessions weekly of lifting weights, using a resistance band or doing other toning exercises.
Carve out Personal Time

"Between the demands of work and family, it becomes even more challenging to find time for yourself in your 40s," says Dr. Mieres. But it's crucial to do so—not only to help ease stress but also to guard against depression, which commonly crops up in this decade and can raise your risk of heart disease. "Find at least 10 minutes of ‘me' time every day to do something—even if it's just chatting on the phone with a friend—that helps you destress and regroup," says Dr. Mieres.
In Your 50s

Move More
Around menopause, you tend to gain extra weight around your belly, which can lead to insulin resistance, inflammation and heart strain. Cardiovascular fitness also starts to decline, particularly if you're not that physically active to begin with. "Unfortunately, at this point, women have to burn more calories to stay at the same weight," Dr. Stevens says. Start taking the stairs instead of the elevator whenever you can, walk faster around the mall, or jog to the mailbox to send letters instead of sticking your hand out the car window as you drive by. Small changes really do add up.

Have an ECG
Silent heart abnormalities become more common in your 50s, and anelectrocardiogram (ECG) to check your heart's electrical activity can pick them up, says Dr. Goldberg. Also ask your doctor if you should have a stress test; this is especially important if you're just starting to exercise.

Add Fiber
Besides being good for your cholesterol and blood sugar, pumping up your fiber intake (think whole grains like oatmeal, brown rice and flaxseeds, as well as beans, fruits and veggies) can help prevent constipation, which becomes more of a problem as you get older and your digestive system starts to slow down.
In Your 60s


Get Even More Vigilant About Screenings
After you go through menopause and get older, your blood pressure and cholesterol tend to go up, and blood vessels get stiffer. "Have your blood sugar, blood pressure and cholesterol measured yearly," advises Dr. Goldberg.
Consider Medication

If you have hypertension or high cholesterol, the way you've been managing it before may not be enough. "As you get older, you may need more aggressive therapy," Dr. Bonow says. "High blood pressure that was controlled with one medication may now require three to control it." Talk to your doctor about whether you need to add to or adjust your medications to control your risk factors.
Be Alert to Symptoms

Now is when the first noticeable symptoms of heart disease may appear, so it's important to know what's normal for your body and be on the lookout for worrisome signs like chest discomfort, shortness of breath or changes in exercise tolerance—meaning you suddenly feel winded going up a flight of stairs or feel unusually tired for no apparent reason, says Dr. Mieres. If these appear, see your doctor pronto!

20 February 2010

Top 10 tips for proposing a Girl


As the popular notion goes, men are definitely from Mars (the passionate planet), so are the Women from Venus, the love planet. A nature's most wonderful creation, a girl loves unconditionally and her love is forever. She can love like there is no tomorrow and hate like you wish you would die. As solid and patient as earth, she can be a protector, a healer a creator and a destroyer. Proposing a girl can certainly be a bit tricky but not impossible. So guys if you are sailing in the confused boat unaware of the way to propose a girl, look out at the following tips to get ideas on how to propose her and be hers forever. We wish you all the best!


Proposing a Girl

* Do a little homework. Get to know your girl well, before you pop the question. Get to know her interests, her dislikes, and her general nature that will help you plan your proposal in a better way. If she is shy and an introvert, propose when you two are alone. If she is sporty and loves adventure, then take her for rock climbing and propose when you reach at the top.

* The age old way of going down on knees in public is still the best way to propose a girl. Don’t try this idea with a shy and introvert girl as she might find it difficult to reciprocate as it could be embarrassing.

* Words matter a lot to girls if said genuinely or else they can easily figure out the topping of gloss you have added and will be unaffected. If you can write well, write a poem for her and record it in a CD. Play it while you are together and see her melting.

* All girls love flowers. So get a huge bouquet of roses and tell her how much you love her and how much she means to you. Tell her you would like to spend the rest of your life with her or alone. Be ready to be smothered by a genuinely happy woman's hug!

* Gestures have a great role to play in proposing a girl as they take a quick notice of it. Show your gentle, protective and emotional dependence nature while you are around her and mean it too. Girls fall for guys with these qualities and there will be no ground for rejection when you will propose her.

* Appreciate her for what she is. Tell her "you look beautiful" when she does not have any make up on. Tell her she looks amazing when she is having a bad day and mean it. She will love you for it and will readily agree when you propose. Just don't overdo it, as it will look fake.

* Girls love to be pampered so when you intend to propose, make sure you are chivalrous enough to make her feel special and at the same time not look vulnerable. Women want a strong man, not a wimp.

* You can even propose the girl at a place where you first met or a place you have fond memories of as these places have an association attached to it that will give less chance to her for refusal.

* Don't force her to say yes. The worst you can do is to push her around and threaten her dignity. Tell her to take her time and that you shall wait. Be a gentleman and respect her. Incase she doesn't want a relationship; she will let you know of it then and there.

29 January 2010

10 Top Tips at work place to boost your Career


Who would you rather work with: a genius star performer who’s an incredible pain in the you-know-what or a “merely” competent worker who’s a breeze to get along with?


Scary thought: You probably spend more hours of the day with your work colleagues than with any other group of human beings. And the great majority of the time you don’t even get to choose them. You all have different backgrounds, ages, and interests and yet you need to function well and smoothly with these people.

We live in a world where the ability to get things done as a team is more and more prized. You will be judged (and promoted) on how well you work with customers, colleagues, superiors, and those lower down on the corporate ladder. It’s one of the major keys to career success. While you probably learned in kindergarten how to play well with others, sometimes we lose track of the basics. So here are 10 useful tips:

[See 9 tips for getting good career advice.]

1. Heads up. When people talk to you, don’t continue tapping away at your keyboard. Instead, give the person the gift of your undivided attention, if only for a minute. It sounds like a small thing. But the art of truly paying attention is a dying art, and if you excel at it you will stand out.

2. Listen actively. Many people don’t express themselves well. You may need to look beneath the surface of their words to get to the core of what they’re trying to say. Be a little patient, and don’t interrupt, or jump on small mistakes.

3. Show (sincere) interest. You may not want to be BFFs with your cubicle mate but it won’t kill you to ask, “How was your weekend?” Listen for a couple of minutes, and then turn back to the work at hand. Now, was that so hard?

[See how to find a mentor.]

4. Assume goodwill. Most people are sincerely trying to do a good job. So no matter how stupid or incompetent or misguided your colleagues’ actions might be, consider the possibility that they believed they were doing the right thing at the time. Try to look at the situation from their perspectives. You might learn something. At the very least, you’ll earn their gratitude.

5. Share credit. Even if a success was all your idea you will look like even more of a winner if you share the glory. Besides, does anybody really ever accomplish something entirely on their own?

6. Be open to the possibility that you might be wrong. Hey, it’s possible. At least accept that there’s room for improvement. Your ideas and work will benefit from the input of others. Really.

7. Honor your commitments. Be the kind of person who says he’ll have the report done by Tuesday and has it done by Tuesday. Reliability and integrity not only make you look good, they’re contagious and will contribute to a constructive work environment.

8. Show appreciation. Even though it may be someone’s job to supply you with, say, paper clips, when that person delivers the paper clips, say “thank you.” It costs you nothing, and it fosters an atmosphere of civility.

9. Speak to others in a clear, direct, respectful, pleasant, and positive way. It inspires your coworkers to treat you likewise.

10. Finally, don’t expect to like everybody. And don’t expect everybody to like you. As with any group of people, you’re going to get along with some better than others, and there may be a few you just can’t stand. Be tolerant. Pick your battles. Sometimes it’s just enough that the work gets done.

15 January 2010

Seven Powerful elements of Leadership

Leadership


”A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be.” ~ Rosalynn Carter

Leadership

The seven elements of leadership:

1. Leaders challenge the status quo.
2. Leaders create a culture around their goal and involve others in that culture.
3. Leaders have an extraordinary amount of curiosity about the world they're trying to change.
4. Leaders use charisma (in a variety of forms) to attract and motivate followers.
5. Leaders communicate their vision of the future.
6. Leaders commit to a vision and make decisions based on that commitment.
7. Leaders connect their followers to one another.

14 January 2010

How to keep women HAPPY -PART- 2


Keep her happy rule #4 - The next rule is to be careful with her jealousy triggers. Basically this means - don't obviously ogle over other girls. Girls don't like to feel insecure, and they don't understand that men are visual beings who check out other women. Women are biologically engineered to seek a lifetime protector, so realize that checking out other women in front of your partner may make things testy between you two.

Keep her happy rule #5 - Keep her smiling and laughing. Men love good looks - but as I said earlier, women love a personality, including his sense of humor. A healthy relationship involves lots of laughs and some inside jokes.

Keep her happy rule #6 - Find common interests and activities, and keep things fresh in the relationship. Take an interest in her hobbies and interests, and introduce her to some of yours. Constantly learn and explore with each other, it keeps you both young, and keeps the relationship healthy.

Keep her happy rule #7 - Stay interesting. I know from experience that once you have the girl, you might become lazy in a lot of different respects. This will eventually kill the attraction, and the relationship. Keep yourself fresh, groom yourself, buy a new t-shirt once in a blue moon. Don't get sloppy or you could lose her.

Keep her happy rule #4 - The next rule is to be careful with her jealousy triggers. Basically this means - don't obviously ogle over other girls. Girls don't like to feel insecure, and they don't understand that men are visual beings who check out other women. Women are biologically engineered to seek a lifetime protector, so realize that checking out other women in front of your partner may make things testy between you two.

Keep her happy rule #5 - Keep her smiling and laughing. Men love good looks - but as I said earlier, women love a personality, including his sense of humor. A healthy relationship involves lots of laughs and some inside jokes.

Keep her happy rule #6 - Find common interests and activities, and keep things fresh in the relationship. Take an interest in her hobbies and interests, and introduce her to some of yours. Constantly learn and explore with each other, it keeps you both young, and keeps the relationship healthy.

Keep her happy rule #7 - Stay interesting. I know from experience that once you have the girl, you might become lazy in a lot of different respects. This will eventually kill the attraction, and the relationship. Keep yourself fresh, groom yourself, buy a new t-shirt once in a blue moon. Don't get sloppy or you could lose her.

Keep her happy rule #8 - Entertain her friends. If you win over a woman's friends and/or family, you gain major points. She can now trust you even more, and this only increases your value. I wouldn't try to become best friends with any of her friends, but keep things light, funny, and entertaining. This always works in your favor.

Keep her happy rule #9 - Be considerate of her feelings. Women are more emotional beings than men. Women want to feel understood. Give her some support and she will appreciate you for it. Don't fight her bad moods.

Keep her happy rule #10 - Always be open to try new things. When you start dating a girl, things are new and exciting. After a while, the two of you may find yourself in predictable routine. The more you shake things up, the more you will enjoy each other and learn about each other. This keeps the relationship healthy and growing.

There you have it, ten easy-enough rules to follow if you are serious about keeping your relationships strong. If you don't pay attention to these rules, you'll find out the hard way about the reality of a stale, fearful relationship... they don't last.

How to keep women HAPPY -PART- 1

Today I would like to give you the main points about
Keeping a woman happy, which is vital for a healthy relationship. Here are several tips to keep a girl happy - pay attention and reap the rewards.


I have some more points to blog..bookmark ..for series....

Keep her happy rule #1 - Always be yourself; don't supplicate. There are guys out there who think they aren't good enough to attract a jaw-dropping beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on an act. A confident man doesn't act like this. As I write this article, I'm in INDIA, where there are plenty of amazing girls holding onto the arm of an out of shape dude with a pony style haircut. It just goes to show that women are more attracted to confidence and personality than looks.

Keep her happy rule #2 - Notice the little things. Women are all about the details. Does she have a favorite candy, a favorite flower, color, etc.? Get creative, surprise her with little momentos, she'll appreciate these things. I've met guys who try to impress girls with big gifts, but the reality is the women appreciate the smaller gifts a lot more in general.

Keep her happy rule #3 - This one is pretty simple: Appreciate her. Never take your woman for granted, let her know from time to time why you value her, what you find so irresistible about her.

Second part continues....

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